How often do we overlook the power of a simple “thank you”? When did you last express gratitude internally and outwardly to someone in your life? We often get so caught up in daily responsibilities, work, and the demands of life that we forget to express gratitude. It’s not that we aren’t grateful, but like many, I’ve found myself internalizing my appreciation rather than voicing it.
In today’s world, getting lost in the hustle is easy. However, I’ve discovered that the intentional practice of gratitude has the power to transform our relationships. This realization dawned on me during a recent’ Gratitude Stack study session.‘ It’s a tool that has significantly impacted my relationships, and I’m excited to share its potential with you.
The Root of Gratitude
For much of my life, I connected expressing gratitude with material things. Growing up, I learned from my first stepfather that you show appreciation by buying things rather than using words or actions. Whether it was toys, gadgets, or other trinkets, these items conveyed love and gratitude. But something was missing—a void that material things couldn’t fill. Over time, I realized that while material gifts are lovely, they don’t carry the same weight as words, actions, or a heartfelt “thank you.”
Many have been conditioned to believe that providing for others or fulfilling our responsibilities is enough. “Why do you need to be thanked?” we might think. Isn’t this just part of being a decent person? But people must hear that they’re loved, appreciated, and valued. We all need that reinforcement, and it’s our job to share it.
The Power of Words
I ghosted my first stepfather for many reasons, but the truth is, he did show up in moments, even if he fell short more often than not. He may not have been a stellar father figure, but I see now that he did the best he could with what he knew. And in that, I find gratitude.
On the flip side, my grandmother filled the gaps. She showed me warmth, love, and attention in ways no one else had. Those moments were vital in shaping my understanding of what it means to feel valued and loved. It was her presence and words that made a difference, not the things she bought me.
Through this reflection, I’ve come to understand gratitude as a powerful tool for fortifying our relationships. When I began using the Gratitude Stack, it became clear that expressing gratitude doesn’t just strengthen relationships; it equips us to face the inevitable challenges life throws our way.
Choosing Gratitude Over Anger
The revelation that stuck with me during this study session was that we always have a choice—anger or gratitude. The scenario might seem to dictate how we feel, but at the end of the day, the choice remains with us. I’ve been through my share of anger. I’ve let resentment brew over situations where I felt wronged or unappreciated. But anger corrodes. It builds walls where bridges should be.
Gratitude, on the other hand, builds those bridges. It brings clarity and perspective. When I choose gratitude, I see the good, even in imperfect situations. I focus on what’s right rather than dwell on what’s wrong.
Applying Gratitude in Relationships
One area where I’m applying gratitude is in my relationships. It’s easy to let everyday frustrations with family, friends, or colleagues cloud the bigger picture. But by practicing gratitude, I can take a step back and appreciate the positive aspects of these relationships. It’s about acknowledging what’s good and letting people know they matter. It’s about showing appreciation, love, and honor in an organized and meaningful way.
This practice isn’t about ignoring problems or brushing things under the rug. It’s about taking a proactive approach to show appreciation and fostering positivity. Doing so allows you and the people around you to navigate challenges more effectively.
The Beauty of Old Wood
One metaphor that came to me during this session is that old wood has a beautiful grain that can be repurposed. Like relationships, sometimes we need to strip things down to their bare bones, smooth out the rough edges, and apply a clear finish to bring out the best in both the wood and the relationship. When we practice gratitude, we’re using that clear finish—it brings out the beauty, protects against damage, and gives both of us a fresh start.
Gratitude preserves and enhances relationships. By practicing gratitude regularly with those in my circle, I’m creating a protective layer against future challenges and bringing out the best in myself and others.
Immediate Actions: Building a Gratitude Habit
So, how do you get started? First, list the people with whom you want to build stronger relationships. For me, it started with the relationships I knew needed some reinforcement—those where gratitude had been lacking, either because of neglect or because I had let frustrations get in the way.
Then, begin. Whether you write out your thoughts, send a message of appreciation, or have a face-to-face conversation, take the time to express your gratitude. Let people know that they are loved, valued, and appreciated. Through your words, let them see the beauty in themselves.
Gratitude isn’t something we should keep inside. It should be shared—often and with intention.
Practicing Gratitude as a Daily Habit
As I move forward, I’m committed to making gratitude a daily habit. This isn’t just about saying “thank you” more often but about genuinely reflecting on the good in others and letting them know it. I encourage you to do the same. It’s a simple practice with profound effects on relationships.
By practicing gratitude, we strengthen our connections and protect them from the wear and tear of daily life. The choice is always ours—anger or gratitude. I’ve chosen gratitude, and I invite you to do the same. Let’s build stronger relationships, starting today.
Call to Action
If this resonates with you, I challenge you to begin your gratitude practice today. Make a list of people who need to hear from you, and take a moment to express your gratitude. Watch as your relationships grow more robust and resilient. And remember, gratitude is a choice that leads to stronger connections, happier lives, and a more peaceful heart.