What If You Started This Journey Ten Years Earlier

What If You Started This Journey Ten Years Earlier

What If You Started This Journey Ten Years Earlier

What if you started this as a life coach ten years earlier? This is a great reflection question we should all ask ourselves about what we do now or considering. The problem here lies in that what we know now you did not know back then. You could say, “What if,” all day but you will not know until you take action. I did not know anything ten years ago, and I realize I know even less today about the world. I do know a lot more about who I am and what I am supposed to be doing. The same applies to you as well. Deep down we all know but our reservations prevent us from taking action.

My Life Ten Years Earlier

Ten years ago I was in the fourth year of a broken marriage with a  3-year-old on my heels. I was a dominant, active, task-oriented guy who was not too sensitive.  I loved tackling a difficult task, planning, and organizing. I was ready to take on new responsibilities and hungry to fulfill my dreams. I was tight, a little too critical and fault finding at times. It was my way or the highway. I was too confident, too hard on myself and moved forward without investigating or gathering all the information.

What would happen over the next three years no one would have guessed. A total transformation. I changed my entire worldview after finding myself in a very low and dark place. Words cannot describe some of the trauma, loss, and complete failure that had infected my life. I felt like a plane on fire heading for a collision with the ground, and everyone was pointing at me in the sky.

A New Saga Emerges

What emerged was a total transformation. I changed my entire worldview after finding myself in a very miserable place. I began developing productive, healthy relationships with people who valued and supported me. I realized people were the greatest asset. I was giving without expecting anything in return. I found my spark and began exercising regularly. I re-discovered my love of reading and learning. I started to explore the world with fresh eyes like a kid again.

Using Strengths For Good

I remain strong-willed and energetic but instead of strong arming, I am creating an environment for people to find their purpose and power. Instead of picking a job I am now focused on working in an industry where challenging the status quo is the goal – to create change . Every day is a good struggle not only for me but for the people I work with. I help people worry less about what others think, take more risk and learn every day.

The Next Ten Years Where Will You Be?

Do you want to achieve your personal goals? If you are looking for someone who can ask you questions, so you realize your solutions. If you want to unlock your potential and maximize your performance. If you wish to be a part of a collaborative solution-focused, results-oriented and systematic process facilitates experience, learning, and personal growth. Let’s start focusing on where you will be in the next ten years.

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  • One of my favorite quotes is by Tony Robbins (I think), who says that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year, and underestimate what they can accomplish in ten years. I love how you encourage people to take this ten-year perspective in life. I was certainly in a much different place a decade ago, and am excited about what the next ten years will bring!

    Kirby, you have a powerful story and there is much in this post that I didn’t know about you. It’s awesome hearing about where you passion for coaching comes from!

    • dr mustaque ahmed

      moses (pbuh ) had to stay 10 years as a shepherd!

  • It is wonderful you share your experience with grace and see your weakness with an avenue for strenght. I am happy reading this Kirby. You are one honest writer I know!
    Great job

  • I often think about this or something similar. My life was VERY different 10 years ago and would be nothing like it is now, had I continued on that path. Unfortunately, I got off track but I am thankful for God’s grace in my life and that even when I was a bit of a mess he chose to bless me in the most wonderful way by making me a mother. I love this question and think it is something to keep at the forefront for the next 10 years. I’m looking forward to the best years of my life!

    • God’s grace is awesome. Thank you for stopping by and look forward to seeing the next 10 years unfold.

  • My life would be totally different, but at the same time, I know I am right where I am supposed to be. Thankful for grace and forgiveness along the way 🙂

    • Thanks for joining the discussion. I’m am glad that you have found your purpose and objectives in life.

  • Susan Burfoot Mead

    Kirby, what a great question to ask – what if? Yet we can’t change the past, however, we surely can learn from it, like you did.

    • Thanks you Susan. No we cannot change the past. We can become stronger from the experience and use that to have a better perspective on ourselves, others and the world. Thanks for swinging by and leaving a comment.