The purpose for life coaching is to help people find balance. There are many changes and transitions in life that cause an imbalance to happen. You may be experiencing a divorce, a career change or a physical move to another location. Change causes us to leave and enter into different seasons of life. Sometimes one season can overlap with another. Change can be unpredictable and traumatic in some instances.
Coaches help people improve their quality of life. I was reading a blog post written by Jon Beaty, a health, and healing coach, about happiness at work and what the Bible says about it. Jon’s article triggered a thought about work-life balance. I left this comment, “One of the things I find that is missing from a lot of work is that we separate our profession from our faith.” Then I got to thinking about this some more.
Worship, Work, and Play
Christopher McCluskey, the father of Christian Coaching, has a theory about balance. Christopher says that we can divide life into three areas. Imagine a triangle and at each corner you see one of these three words – Worship, Work and Play. He argues that we are out of balance with this triangle. We worship our work, work at trying to play and play at worshiping. Instead, we should be present in what we do. To experience balance is to invest in the activity and be present.
Do you have more than one calling?
Coaching is not the only thing I do in life – hard to believe. I enjoy many things and share my gifts and passions as much as permitted. I also like to explore new shiny things that come across my path. I am what you call a multipotentialite, Polymath or Renaissance Man. My expertise spans across many different topics that I enjoy. I could argue that many of you are multipotentialites, polymaths or renaissance men. Check out this video explaining a multipotentialite.
As Stephen Covey says in his book First Things First that we have many roles in life. We have to plan our most important functions inside of those roles. Then focus on the roles most important to us first. I believe even if you are like me and have many delights or if you are a minimalist, you can find balance.
10 things I do when not coaching
Here are the ten things that I do when I am not hard at work as a coach.
- Proud husband to a beautiful woman who deserves more than I could ever provide. The father of three boys ages 12, 2 and ten weeks. I spent four days with my 2-year-old doing a potty-training immersion where the rest of the world was on pause. I enjoy father-son wrestling camps over the summers with my 12-year-old. We take hiking trips into the Shenandoah Valley.
- Program Manager for victims of sexual violence for the last year.
- Graduate student at Liberty University, where I take 8-week online courses five times a year.
- Officiating baseball for 12-year-olds to high school. I received Rookie of the Year recognition in the MAC and NVBUA associations last year that spans across threes states.
- Reading is a dedicated activity for personal development, and I have completed 45 of 50 books I set as a goal. I am six books ahead at this point in the year. My favorites this year so far is Purple Cow by Seth Godin, Made to Stick by Chip and Dan Heath, The Productive Person by James Roper and Chandler Bolt.
- Attend 3 Bible studies; a home fellowship, a lunchtime Protestant study, and men’s fellowship.
- Volunteering is a way for me to give back, bring awareness and change. I placed ribbons on street lights this month for National Domestic Awareness Month.
- Helping on the book launch team for “Listen Up, Kids, Foolish Dreams, Syncing with God and Running to Win” by Chad Gramling.
- Attend conferences and speaking engagements. These include the Glorious Mess, Family-iD, Do Over with Jon Acuff, a resilience summit, and Family Team Building event.
- Train and educate people on 26 skills that build resilience and enhance performance.
“Balance, peace, and joy are the fruit of a successful life. It starts with recognizing your talents and finding ways to serve others by using them.”
– Thomas Kinkade
You are wondering how I have all this time to do this many things; that would be another post. I wanted to show you that when you are present in the moment and not hard at work life can be enjoyable. You can pursue all the things you desire and love with balance through the seasons.
What are some of the things you do when you are not hard at work?
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