Clock vs. Compass: Are You Chasing Time in Your Life?

Clock vs. Compass: Are You Chasing Time in Your Life?

Clock vs. Compass: Are You Chasing Time in Your Life?

Are you using the wrong instrument to manage your life?

The clock by default is used daily. It’s an unforgiving instrument that has limitations and consequences.

Only twenty-four hours exist in each day, no more no less. You can only have twenty-four and you may not allocate more time. Once the hour has passed it is gone. Racing against the clock every day has you focused on working harder, smarter, and faster but gets you know where. At the end of each day, you will have raced against time while running on a treadmill.

Sound Familiar?

Ask yourself these three questions about your life:

  1. Am I giving the time to the things that matter most in my life?
  2. Is my life meaningful?
  3. Am I achieving and making progress towards what I want?
  4. Do you feel drained daily, torn between demands and decision making?

I admit that on average each person has about 30,000 days in this life. That is not a lot of time to accomplish all your desires but is enough time to make a significant impact in the lives of others if you approach your life in a purposeful manner.

The compass is the instrument that is most effective in life. It teaches us to live, love, learn and leave a legacy. It points to the direction we should focus our lives, true north. True north resembles your vision – the destination of your life, your purpose, your mission. The compass is a combination of these things that also include your values and strengths. When you understand how you are created and the tools that you are equipped with then can you live that rich and satisfying life.

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Life gave me a wake-up call that felt like a crisis. At that moment I began realizing, I wasn’t doing what was important. My time was focused on commitments and schedules rather than relationships and value. I searched for all the shortcuts. Attempted to become more efficient so I could allocate more time elsewhere. What I received was more tasks and the same amount of time to complete them, adding quantity over quality, tediously minute managing the day. It was affecting my performance, my team, relationships, home, and goals.

I was at the point of exhaustion, not wanting to get out of bed in the morning and passing out at the first moment I could sit and relax. Trying every technique and tool I could find. I used digital calendars, syncing with every device I owned with pop up reminders, created task-list, mimic the scheduling techniques of men like Benjamin Franklin and Teddy Roosevelt.  After trying a few smartphone apps, Eternity Time Log was helpful by showing me where I was spending time but ineffective at managing it.  Crisis mode hit, I was destructing relationships and I wasn’t a pleasant person, I felt torn after being placed on a torture rack.  Sitting down finally, I examined my life.

I analyzed the things that I valued that were important to me for example, Family, Spirituality, Self-development, Profession. Then I mapped out my goals related to those values and how they may be connected to one another and defined my focus.

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The problem was that my vision was fuzzy.  I was focused on the circle of influence and concern rather than me and what I could effectively control.  Noticing  I had two visions, the near term, and the long term.  I began to bring the two closer and interconnect them.  This reduced the sense of urgency with careful planning and quarterly goal setting.  Each week I began to analyze the past week, its success and failures.

Then asking myself these questions while goal setting for the next quarter.

  1. What do I want?
  2. Why do I want it?
  3. How am I going to get it?
  4. Does it fall in line with my principles and values?

Asking yourself these questions puts yourself in touch with your values.  It gives your decisions integrity and satisfaction that you made the right choices based on your principles.  If you begin to rationalize with yourself and make excuses about the decisions you make, then you need to stop yourself and start over, your not using your moral compass that points you into making the right choices for the right reasons.  Each day is a battle against urgency and people pleasing addiction this is like crack for drug users.  You have to consciously put yourself into focus each day.

My morning routine looks like this.

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After a while you’ll begin to become flexible and agile in all your different roles in life, providing value. You will begin seeing ordinary results turn into extraordinary results. You will not break but bend and react quickly to things becoming flexible. You’ll stop worrying about who is right or wrong or what others are thinking. You will begin doing what works for you and become your authentic self, feeling happy, peaceful, secure, balanced and purposeful. Recognize your obsession with time and find your purpose.

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The compass is the instrument of choice, so stop looking at the clock and add quality and peace to your life.  Every person can get extraordinary results by using your internal compass.  Clarify your vision, find your purpose and act upon those things that align with your values and strengths.  Be courageous and turn away from the direction the rest of the herd is headed before you run off the cliff.

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  • I like your analogy of clock vs. compass. The Bible encourages one to redeem their time. Your idea of a compass sounds like a way to make sure that you do just that.

    • Your compass is your tool to keep you moving in the right direction. Some use a mission statement to do this as well.

  • Good pos!. For “Asking myself these questions while goal setting for the next week.” 1, 2 and 4 are easy. It’s three that is difficult. I need to get the answer to #3. 🙂

    • Hi Pat,

      Thanks for leaving a comment. It is tough to decide how to get something. Especially if you are starting out or at a cross-roads. You may not have the resources, time, connections or even finances. But I caution this type of thinking because we do have all these things. We just might not be looking in the right places. We have it within us and all-around us. The resources are there, you just have to be willing to ask or receive them.

  • Thanks for the comment and reading the blog Nathaniel. I hope you got some great info and the questions are helping you get back on track. I find myself in a similar situation after having weeks of success, then I find myself binging on relaxation. I find the saying that every failure is a stepping stone to success quite appropriate in this situation. Analysis and try again. This is why I like the weekly goals. I can go back to past weeks and see what works and whats not. Keeping a record can be a useful tool to see trends.

  • I enjoy reading your posts. I totally agree with leaving social media till later in the day. It can be a time-waster and we often do not realize that. It is good to prioritize and bring oneself to focus constantly. I find myself multi-tasking too much and forgetting things and focusing on unimportant stuff many times.

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    • Thank you I appreciate the great compliment and the helpful tidbits. I’m glad that I could bring some enjoyment to your blog surfing.

      I found social media the biggest time waster and stopped have been making advances toward not multitasking. I’m finding greater enjoyment in focusing on doing just one thing and getting greater results doing that. On the social media side, I’m using it as a tool to leverage my sphere of influence. Believe it or not when I used the app Eternity Time Log, I found that 20% of my day or more was on social media. When you cut that down to about 1-2% you find your relationships and what you have time for multiplies. In order to do this I had to turn off every notification on every type of media I owned so I wouldn’t be distracted, forcing myself to only check social media if I had extra time after I finished my email and my inbox was zero. I only check email 3x per day, after lunch, late afternoon and evening. Quality and productivity are jumping by leaps and bounds, most importantly my relationships are much better.

      Thanks again for supporting the blog. I look forward to future discussions.